That's when we begin to say, "Maybe we won't agree on abortion, but we can still agree that this is a heart-wrenching decision for any woman to make, with both moral and spiritual dimensions.Well, no. For some women, perhaps, but for many women, the decision to have an abortion is not heart-wrenching; there's no reason is must be so for any and every woman.
So let's work together to reduce the number of women seeking abortions by reducing unintended pregnancies, and making adoption more available, and providing care and support for women who do carry their child to term. Let's honor the conscience of those who disagree with abortion, and draft a sensible conscience clause, and make sure that all of our health care policies are grounded in clear ethics and sound science, as well as respect for the equality of women."
— Barack Obama, Notre Dame Commencement Speech
We should certainly reduce unintended pregnancies, but we should do so not to reduce the number of abortions, but to stop blocking women from absolute ownership over their own bodies and their own reproductive rights. We should make adoption more available not to reduce abortions, but to take care of children whom women have freely chosen to bear but cannot or do not want to raise. And we should provide care and support for women who carry their children to term not to reduce abortion but for the sake of the women themselves, because it's the sine qua non of civilization to take care of its citizens.
In what way are we to "honor the conscience of those who disagree with abortion?" No one is forcing anyone to have abortions, but those who "disagree" with abortion believe (at best) that abortion is murder. I do not believe such people will be satisfied with irrelevant lip service. I can't see any middle ground here, any more than I can see any middle ground between those who would prohibit and those who would tolerate the murder of born people. Either abortion is murder or it's not. Either a woman has absolute control over her own body, or she does not.
[h/t to Daniel Florien]